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On Recognizing That You Are Already Whole

First of all, thank you so much for the post-surgery love!  I have the most wonderful readers and patients.  And, I must say, I often find that I learn so much from them on how to live life!  I have a few announcements at the end of this blog post, so please check them out to get the 411 on FREE ear acupuncture in my office this Thursday, 10/24!

As we progress into Fall, I notice a lot of people saying things like, “I need healing”, “I feel broken”, “I need to feel whole again”.  The reality is, even though this is how it feels in our bodies or our minds at this moment, we are collectively raised on an energetic level right now where we are ready to accept that we are already whole, that we are healing, that we are love, that we are light.  I know what you may be thinking, “How can you say that?  There are so many people suffering from diseases, who are chronically ill, who are unhappy?”

The truth is, no matter what state our bodies are in, we have the ability to accept ourselves as already whole.  As not lacking.  Because saying we do not feel whole means that we are telling ourselves that we lack.  We judge our bodies for not performing a certain way, we grow impatient with our slow lack of growth towards our health goals.  To put it bluntly, when we react to our bodies this way, we are not showing ourselves love.  We can be dealing with elevated stages of cancer and still see our bodies as whole, see ourselves as loved.  There is a reason why Louise Hay, popular author of “You Can Heal Your Life” (I love this book, especially the gift edition, which is a turtleback, and is chockfull of colorful illustrations, which is great for those of us who take in information visually) was considered radical in the early 80’s when she first spoke about her cancer as self-created, and how she is now cancer-free without surgery or drugs, and reclaimed wellness/wholeness by intensely shifting her mental perception of self, seeing her body as self-healing, through affirmations, nutritional cleansing, visualizations, and psychotherapy.

Even on a smaller scale, my experience of my laparoscopic myomectomy has taught me that our bodies are very vocal, and we need to tune into them in order to create the awareness and connection with our bodies.  When we listen to what our bodies are saying to us, we make the necessary changes to create healthier patterns, whether they be energetic, emotional, spiritual, or physical.  And, in my experience, these levels of wellness are all interconnected.  You cannot treat the physical body without addressing the energetic self, and vice versa.  This is the concept behind holistic health – treating all aspects of health that we have, on all levels.

I have seen it, where the shoulder pain correlates to emotional pain that has been held there for years, and once the emotional pain has been addressed, the shoulder pain is easier to manage on a physical level.  That’s just one example.  I’m not saying that every physical pain is psychosomatic, since some physical pains are due to trauma or injury to the area.  But the chronic pains, and where they’re located, are very telling:  the pain in the neck, which could address inflexible viewpoints, the pain in the lower back, which can sometimes reflect fear of financial security, etc.

We are all works in progress, here on this Earthly plane to get in touch with our power, to share what that is with the world, and even, the universe.  We all hold profound gifts that may/may not be developed.  We were born whole, we are whole.

Oftentimes, I hear from people, “I feel broken”, “I am nothing without my better half”, or “I am not whole without __________ (place person, place, or thing here)”.  Although these may be powerful states of mind, they are illusions, and when we think these things, we believe the fear we have created around these stories.  Yes, they’re only stories.  More accurately put, they are illusions.

So, how do we reclaim our wholeness when we feel broken, disjointed, disconnected, and lacking?

  1. Take your power back.  In a previous post, “How To Protect Yourself From Psychic Vampires In The Concrete Jungle”, I gave a method on how to take your power back, by literally calling it back to you, and focusing the re-entry of your power gathering into your third chakra, 2″ above the navel.  This is one great way to take your power back.  Particularly when you feel scattered.  Feeling scattered is an immediate sign that you have given away your power to too many places (this is often without our conscious knowing.)  We give power away when we react to denser energies, when we allow our resentment, hatred, or anger to envelop our daily activities, when we hold unhealthy feelings in our bodies for too long.  We then wonder why we’re so tired at the end of the day!  The reason we’re tired by the end of the day is because instead of focusing our energy on the things that propagate hope, joy, and love, we invest it, instead, on the unpleasant experience we had at the grocery store earlier that day, the injustice you may be experiencing in a family dynamic, the rude cab driver or stranger on the street who pushed all of those trigger buttons.  Action:  Either call your power back to you, as mentioned in above previous post, or simply say, “I release all energies that no longer serve me.”  It’s amazing how easy, but powerful, this sentence is.  You will immediately feel less burdened in your heart, or elsewhere in your body (most likely where the heaviness resided), upon saying this.
  2. Put your power where your mind and mouth are.  Everything you say is heard by your body.  As a culture, we dumb ourselves down way too often, and say off-putting remarks about our bodies, our selves, our worth.  Perhaps it’s something we’ve learned to do growing up, perhaps it may have even served a purpose in survival (as many of our current outdated behaviors often do.)  But, what we say about our bodies, minds, and spirits is heard by all aspects of ourselves, and goes deep into our core.  If we tell ourselves we’re worthless, incapable, not whole, unloveable, broken, ugly, unsuccessful, even in a joking way, it is a detriment to our being, and like paper cuts to our soul.  Not only do we create an illusion that is dangerous and false, but these falsehoods then take a life of their own.  If you find that you are saying unsupportive things about your being, instead of beating yourself up, remedy this with self-love.  Action:  When you notice that you’re programming your mind with destructive thoughts, or telling yourself hurtful untruths, recognize what you’re doing, then immediately forgive yourself.  Set the intention to release the hurtful beliefs, and then replace it with something helpful and supportive.  An example of this would be if you catch yourself saying that you’re not good enough/attractive enough/talented enough/successful enough, say, “I forgive myself for saying these hurtful words to myself.  I set the intention that I transform and release my fears around this issue, and replace it with complete acknowledgement of my worth, beauty, and integrity.  I am love.”
  3. Get your shuteye and rest.  We are often at our weakest when we have not allowed ourselves adequate sleep, since sleep helps us rejuvenate our organs and revitalize our system.  Not only does lack of sleep tax our Heart Yin on a Chinese Medicine level, but it also weakens our immune system, and we may be more susceptible to colds.  It is easier to stand in your power and integrity, and focus on the positive forces, when you are rested.  And it is much easier to lose your grounding and stability, and to focus on the negative aspects of life, when you are not.  We are all surrounded by denser and lighter energies.  It is up to us to focus on the energies that benefit us most.  Action:  Detox from the rat race and your list of duties.  Set aside enough time for real rest.  For most people, adequate sleep time is 7-9 hours.  For others, it may be 10.  Whatever amount of time you know your body works optimally on, have at least 1 day out of the week to drink in that optimal amount.  If you are sleep-challenged or experience insomnia, make sure to give yourself downtime so that, even if you are not sleeping, that you are allowing yourself time to empty your head of the day and unwind, releasing the stressors on the down low.
  4. Realize you can create the shift no matter how deep in it you are, it is never too late.  Many people label themselves as “broken” or “unwhole” because they feel they have missed their opportunity to shine or achieve what they’ve really wanted in life.  This is untrue.  While it is true that there are opportunities that may have come and gone, when we are truly aligned with our purpose and integrity, we always receive opportunities to make things right.  To redeem ourselves.  The key is to open our heart, and our eyes, so that we are open to receiving them, and noticing when they arrive.  Our wholeness and healed selves are already here.  It is time to discard the broken record (or should I say, the broken mp3?) that tells us that we have not achieved wholeness.  Understanding that we are already whole is a state of being.  When we acknowledge our whole selves, even if we may feel bad, we already are the love we seek, and we are already whole.  And, therefore, we are never “too late” to own our sovereignty.  Action:  If you ever feel melancholy about a perceived missed opportunity, manifest it!  Set the intention to receive.  A good way to say this is, “I set the intention to open my heart to the universe/God/Higher Power, and that opportunities to help me achieve the job for my highest good/to obtain the relationship for my highest good/to help me perform my projects and tasks optimally, are coming to me easily and effortlessly, and that my senses are open to receive, and act upon, these opportunities.”
  5. Get grateful.  When you feel like you are at a loss, or have no support, understand that you, sitting there by yourself, are already supported.  Someone made the shirt you’re wearing, people manufactured the chair you’re sitting on, others created the device you’re reading this blog post on, and strangers made the building or structure you’re living in (or the bench you’re sitting on outside in the street or park, which was also created by total strangers).  Someone cultivated and harvested, and possibly, cooked, the food that you ate today.  We already have so much to be grateful for in just our being, in the knowing that we are clothed, sheltered, fed by the actions of total strangers.  How amazing is that?  And you never know about strangers in the street.  Sure, some of them may not be of the highest vibration, but you never know when a total stranger will send thoughts of love your way!  How do I know this?  Because, I practice this, sometimes, sending Reiki energy to total strangers in the subway, especially if I feel they need it, or if I sense that their kindness and light has not been acknowledged.  There are many things we receive, without knowing it, that we take for granted.  Action:  Name 7 things that happened today that you’re grateful for.  It’s most helpful if you write it on a piece of paper.  Especially, because, upon reading it back, you discover you are more blessed than you thought you were!  When we are grateful, we send a message to the universe that we are ready for more blessings.

Is there anything not in this above list that you find helpful in reclaiming your wholeness?
If so, what are they?

Recognizing all of you,








Alcantara Acupuncture is now Alcantara Acupuncture & Healing Arts!  As of last Tuesday, the name change is official with New York City’s County Clerk, and more accurately represents my offerings!  The new logo and website are forthcoming, and I’m excited to launch them as they manifest!


Typical auricular NADA (National Acupuncture Detoxification Association) protocol. Often used to treat addictions, but also reduces stress and anxiety.

Typical auricular NADA (National Acupuncture Detoxification Association) protocol. Often used to treat addictions, but also reduces stress and anxiety.

Celebrate AOM Day With FREE Ear Acupuncture @ Alcantara Acupuncture & Healing Arts!

When:  Thursday, October 24, 2013
Time:  1:00pm-3:00pm (by appointment only)
Where:  Alcantara Acupuncture & Healing Arts
@ Omni Wellness
928 Broadway, Suite 1200
Between 21st & 22nd Streets
New York, NY 10010

Email me at malcantara.lac@gmail.com, or call 646.641.6910, to book your spot.

Receive FREE ear acupuncture treatments, to commemorate Acupuncture & Oriental Medicine (AOM) Day!  On this day, I’ll be offering the NADA (National Acupuncture Detoxification Association) ear protocol, which alleviates anxiety, brings down stress levels, helps you sleep better, reboots the sympathetic nervous system, addresses addictive behaviors and PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), and, in general, is an incredibly grounding and calming treatment.  This ear protocol is so effective, that it is used in hospitals and in the battlefield, as well as in harm reduction clinics and agencies.  Enjoy a 15-minute detox in my beautiful, calming office, set to music conducive to helping you release the day, in a community acupuncture atmosphere!

To find out more about Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine Day events in your area, please check out www.aomday.org.
b6187207cd6b28111aae07004abc07a5_f50Alcantara Acupuncture & Healing Arts is donating a full initial Acupuncture or Reiki treatment to the New York Asian Women’s Center (NYAWC)’s 31st Annual Phoenix Awards Gala on Tuesday, October 22nd, which includes silent auction, cocktails, and dinner.

NYAWC is “the largest Asian American focused domestic violence agency in the country, a premier human trafficking serving organization, and a national demonstration project that provides model services to survivors of sexual assault.”

When I was a younger upstart in community activism, one of my passions I addressed was human trafficking of Asian women, particularly Filipina women, so supporting this event is close to my heart!  Help empower women to live free from violence by supporting NYAWC’s work!



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  1. Axis Mundi
    October 21, 2013

    Thanks, some wonderfully simple but crucial reminders here which do help us to lead more empowered lives. Shame I’m in the UK or I’d certainly be there for the Ear Acupuncture. All the best 🙂

    • Margarita Alcantara, M.S.Ac., L.Ac., Reiki Master
      October 21, 2013

      Hello Axis Mundi,

      Thank you for the feedback! It’s interesting how the simple things can easily be momentarily forgotten, until we’re reminded. I hope you enjoyed the post! It is a shame you’re too far away to join in the free ear acupuncture this Thursday; but, I’m pretty sure that there are many resources to enjoy an ear treatment near you! Have a fruitful day!



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